Making changes in your life, feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

Have you ever envisioned what you want your life to look like but you let fears stop you, whether it’s a physical change or a job, relationship status, or anything else?

Recently I’ve had several people comment on our gardens and what an oasis we’ve built in our backyard. My response is always “this is just what I envisioned”. Then the other night I was forced to face my fear of driving on a dark, rainy night. It wasn’t a long drive but I was a little freaked out. I just said to myself “you can do this” so I did. As the saying goes, feel the fear and do it anyway.

Back in 2002, I got bitten with the gardening bug. I read tons of magazine articles, looked through pictures of other people’s gardens and read up on what type of plants were appropriate for my location, how to plant, nurture and divide them. I immersed myself in learning as much as I could. And now? I have a gorgeous sanctuary that I can’t get enough time in.

What does that have to do with sex, hormones and nutrition? A lot, actually.

It can be scary to make a big change in your life, regardless of what type of change it is. If you’ve been doing something a certain way all your life and everyone around you expects you to continue doing the same thing (there’s great comfort in that), it’s unsettle and scary to make changes. What if your friends and family give you a hard time? Don’t believe in you? Try to sabotage your efforts? What if they leave?

I totally understand. I’ve been through it. I used to eat and drink whatever I wanted and everyone was used to that. My life kind of revolved around food. I loved to cook and bake and drink. The problem was, I ended up fat, unhealthy and very unhappy.

And then I drastically changed my lifestyle and my attitude. Most of my friends and family were supportive but nobody knew how to cook for me anywhere. A good portion of my relationship with my best friend revolved around food and that put a temporary strain on our friendship but we got past it.

People fear the unknown and when people don’t understand what you’re doing, their fear shows up as being unsupportive, as anger, as neglect. It’s not that they don’t love you anymore, it’s just that you’re forcing them to treat you differently and that’s uncomfortable. Most people will adapt; some won’t.

So here’s my suggestion. Envision what you want your life to look like. It could be where you live, how you live your life, a weight or fitness goal, a change in lifestyle (from meat eater to vegan for instance), or åça change in vocation. Whatever you want your life to look like, write it out. Research what you need to do. Make a vision board. Picture it in your mind. Get crystal clear on what you want out of life then pursue it with every fibre in your being and don’t let ANYONE … especially yourself … sabotage your efforts. People will adapt or they will leave but if it’s truly something you want, it is worth every effort, every lost relationship, every challenge along the way.

Does that work for better nutrition, a healthier lifestyle, a better sex life? ABSOLUTELY!!!! If you need help with this, please contact me at and I’ll be happy to work with you to develop a program for your life.

Until next week darlings … live life to its fullest!

Sandy O’Shea, C

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