We all have a story and within that story there are so many obstacles that we have to face. Here are some of my thoughts when it comes to life and the challenges we can encounter.
Life doesn’t often go the way you want or expect it to. You get blindsided by an illness, an unexpected expense, a job loss. Perhaps you run your own business and things just aren’t going the way you anticipated they would. Or maybe it’s your relationship that just isn’t working.
What do you do? Throw in the towel? That’s what a lot of people seem to do these days. They give up on their dream, whether it’s a job, a business or a relationship. What happened to tenacity, perseverance and grit?
Life isn’t supposed to be easy. You don’t learn or grow that way. I know it’s not comfortable to put in the effort. To have the tough conversations. To be uncertain. But it is worth the effort!
I talk all the time about getting out of your comfort zone. Trying something new, whether it’s a new sexual position or downhill skiing or starting a new business. It doesn’t matter so much WHAT you do, just that you DO it. And if it’s something that you feel passionate about … something that lights a fire in you … something that is your purpose … Never quit. Never give up.
Relationships aren’t easy. If they’re too easy, there’s something wrong. Not that you should be seeking a difficult relationship but let’s face it … any relationship is challenging. Everyone wants things their own way. It’s human nature to not want to compromise but it’s so necessary. So what do you do if your partner wants to try a different location or position you’re not comfortable with? Why not try it once unless it totally goes against your morals (going to a sex party for instance). But if it’s playing in the kitchen and it just makes you uncomfortable, do it once for your partner. If you don’t like it then don’t do it again … but at least you tried it. And it goes both ways.
But OMG please do NOT allow yourselves to get stuck in a rut, having sex on the same day of the week, or the same place or the same positions all the time. It’s boring as hell and will wreak havoc with your intimacy. What is intimacy? It’s the connection between two people who share a very close (not necessarily sexual) relationship.
Don’t be afraid to fail!! Failure is inevitable but rather than thinking of it as failure, try thinking of it as lessons. Learn from your “failures” and keep moving forward!
Listen to your gut … your instinct … your intuition. Call it whatever … it’s that little voice in your head that tells you when something doesn’t feel right … and tells you when you should go for it. This was a tough lesson for me to learn and it took a while for it to sink in. But when I finally got it through my thick skull, life started to get better. I stopped wasting so much time. So now I stop, listen to that voice and move forward.
If you’re running your own business and you’ve come up against some obstacles, don’t quit. Don’t get distracted by shiny object syndrome. Especially if you’re in the network marketing business. If something you’re doing isn’t working, try a different approach, but don’t just give up on it. That’s not to say you should beat a dead horse. Sometimes you do have to cut your losses and move on. But give it an honest try.
Two pieces for advice to anyone in business. Trust your gut. Hire a great business coach!
For anyone struggling with their relationship … what is the issue? Is your partner just not interested in sex any more? It is because they’re bored? Are they stressed out between the job or business, the kids, the parents and the home? Do they not feel appreciated? Are they going through a change in life such as pregnancy, menopause or andropause?
Hormones play an enormous role in our lives … especially when it comes to sex. Your relationship may be fabulous otherwise but if sex hormones are out of whack, it can cause your partner to push you away.
Best piece of advice I can give you? TALK ABOUT IT!!! Then call me and I’ll help guide you through the challenges of repairing that intimacy.
What’s your story?