Hey guys … I have a question for you. Is your sexual experience satisfying for both you and your partner? Are you able to last long enough to satisfy your partner or do you cum faster than you want? Do you get overexcited then blow after just a couple of minutes? If so, don’t be embarrassed or upset with yourself. Early ejaculation is a form of erectile dysfunction and happens to a LOT of men.
If it happens once in a while, don’t sweat it. It probably happens to almost everyone at some point. Perhaps it’s been too long since you’ve had sex or even enjoyed a woman’s mouth. It happens. So don’t sweat it and please do NOT let it mess you up in the future. I know so many guys who have had an episode or two of cumming quickly, they get all up in their head and because they’re expecting it, it messes them up for future encounters and it becomes a habit rather than an actual issue.
I’m talking mostly to the guy who is experiencing early ejaculation on a consistent basis. There are physical and psychological reasons for this. There are also home remedies that work quite well.
I’ll explain below.
Physical Reasons
- Abnormal hormone levels such as low testosterone.
- Abnormal brain chemicals – especially the neurotransmitter seratonin
- Inflammation or infection of prostate or urethra
- Weak perineal muscles that control ejaculation response (exercises below to help this)
- Habitual/chronic ?????
- Poor blood circulation
- Alcohol or drugs – especially if abused
- Preconditioning – masturbation – if you have to cum fast while masturbating it becomes a habit and when you’re with a partner that habit persists.
- Over excitement (has it been a while?)
Psychological Reasons
- Early negative sexual experiences
- Sexual abuse
- Poor body image
- Stress and anxiety (huge, huge issues)
- Depression
- Worry about early ejaculation
- Guilty feelings that can cause you to rush through sex
Remedies
- Masturbating an hour or two before you have sexual activity may help delay ejaculation during penetration. This sexual release should reduce your need to climax quickly.
- The practice of yoga is being researched more and more for its health benefits. Yoga combines stretching, concentration, and meditation, improving circulation and reducing stress levels. The stress-level benefit alone might be enough to improve symptoms of ED, but yoga has also been shown to promote healthy levels of testosterone. Provided you’re healthy enough to engage in light aerobic exercise, you can begin a yoga practice at any time by attending a class or hiring an instructor to ensure you get the positions correctly.
- Stop and start. You or your partner stimulate your penis until you feel like you’re going to have an orgasm then stop (also known as edging). Allow the sensation to pass then start again. You can do this a few times. Experiment with what works for you.
- Strengthen your pelvic floor muscles (exercises below).
Pelvic Floor exercises for men
- Find the right muscles by stopping mid-stream while peeing or tightening the muscles that stop you from passing gas.
- While laying down, contract your pelvic floor muscles for 3 seconds, and then relax for 3 seconds. Do this at least 10 times in a row. Repeat at least 3 times a day.
- Gradually increase the number of seconds as your muscles become stronger. Try new positions, like standing, walking, or sitting down.
- Don’t forget to breathe, and remember to focus only on your pelvic floor muscles. Don’t tighten your abs, thighs, or buttocks.
Best supplements
Zinc Citrate or Bisglycinate – 25 mg once or twice a day should be safe. Zinc needs to be balanced with copper so it’s best not to go overboard with zinc. Another benefit to zinc is that it’s great for boosting the immune system!
Magnesium Bisglycinate or Glycinate – take 2 capsules at night before bed. Magnesium performs over 300 functions in body including relaxing the muscles, blood vessels and the mind. If you have trouble with constipation, magnesium citrate is a good option but if you end up with loose stools just back off the amount of magnesium you’re taking.
Vitamin D – depending on the time of year, where you live and the colour of your skin, take 2,000 (during the summer for light skinned people) to 10,000 IU per day during the winter for dark skinned people.
Caveat – always purchase the best quality supplements you can from a reputable, quality health store and if you’re not sure about dosing for YOU, consult a natural health care practitioner.
Best foods to boost testosterone
- oysters
- pumpkin seeds
- yogurt
- spinach
- almonds
- kidney beans
- chickpeas
- sesame seeds
- beef and lamb
- dark chocolate
- garlic
- peas