You didn’t come here to play by the rules.

You came to feel alive

So why are you still following someone else’s script when it comes to love, sex, and intimacy?

Most of us were handed a “standard issue” version of relationships: one path, one definition of success, one idea of what desire should look like. And even if we’ve outgrown those beliefs, we often carry them anyway, tucked into our body language, our bedroom routines, our silences.

It’s time to let that shit go.

To break the mold and write your own intimacy story … one that’s built on honesty, liberation, and electric connection.

Whose Rules Are You Following?

Maybe you were told that “good girls don’t want sex”.

Maybe your partner was raised to believe vulnerability is weakness.

Maybe you both assume that passion just fades over time; like it’s some inevitable expiration date.

But none of that is the truth …  it’s just programming.

And it’s killing our desire.

When we blindly follow someone else’s rules, we lose connection to ourselves, to our bodies, and to each other.

What Does Your Intimacy Look Like?

Let’s shake it up.

Ask yourself (or better yet ask each other):

• What turns me on emotionally, not just physically?
  
  
• When do I feel closest to myself? To my partner?
  
  
• What parts of me have I been holding back?
  
  

Deep connection doesn’t have to look like candlelight and eye gazing (unless you’re into that). It might look like laughing together in the kitchen. Messy honesty. Erotic exploration. Or even setting boundaries that keep you grounded.

Real intimacy isn’t performative … it’s personal.

And when it’s personal, it’s powerful.

A Rebel’s Toolkit for Rewriting the Script

Here’s how to start crafting your own rules — solo or with a partner:

1. Get Clear on What You Want

 Try this journaling prompt:
If I trusted my body and my truth 100%, what would I stop doing? What would I do more of?

2. Start the Conversation

Say to your partner:
“Can we talk about what’s been working between us… and what we’re ready to shift?”

3. Try Something That Feels Deliciously ‘Not You’

• Wear sexy lingerie on a random Tuesday
  
  
• Initiate sex differently
  
  
• Share a fantasy
  
  
• Break the script … you might be surprised what lives underneath it
  
  

4. Practice Self-Intimacy

 Not just solo sex (though yes to that too), but also:

• Touching your body with love
  
  
• Speaking your desires out loud
  
  
• Creating rituals that turn you on
  
  

The Invitation

This isn’t about rebellion for rebellion’s sake.

It’s about reclaiming your connection.

To yourself.

To each other.

To the kind of pleasure and intimacy that’s actually yours.

If that’s the kind of freedom you’re craving …  I’ve got you.

My next Sunday Night Sex Talk is all about this topic.

We’re talking about how to rewrite the rules in bed, in love, and in life  with zero shame and lots of turn-on.

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And if you’re ready to start creating your own intimacy blueprint … especially as a couple … let’s talk. My Sex & Intimacy Reset Program might be exactly what your love life’s been waiting for.