The “Three C’s”—Confidence, Clarity, and Connection—work together in perfect harmony. But how do we actually cultivate them? Let’s break it down.
Everything begins with self-confidence. Without it, everything else feels… flat. Why? Because if you don’t love yourself, it’s hard for others to truly love you, and it’s hard to show up fully in life.
Maybe you’re thinking: “How do I get confidence? My self-worth is in the gutter. My body isn’t what it used to be. I’ve let myself go. I don’t know how to feel confident again.”
I’m not going to sugarcoat it—confidence isn’t built by just thinking positive thoughts. It runs much deeper.
Start by honoring your own promises. If you commit to something—or commit to avoiding something—stick to it. Consistency builds trust in yourself, and trust is the foundation of confidence.
If consistency feels tricky, it may be about discipline, goal-setting, or even how your brain works. Be intentional with your thoughts, habits, and actions. The more aligned your life is with your values, the stronger your confidence becomes.
Invest in your spiritual life and intuition. You don’t need to follow a religion to do this. Start listening to your inner guidance—your gut—and take steps to honor it. If you need support, I have a network of amazing people who can help you tap into this.
And here’s the big one: if you don’t like something in your life—your habits, body, job, or even your relationship—change it. You have the power. When you consistently act in alignment with your values and desires, you’ll start trusting yourself. And trust? That’s confidence in action.
If you’re in a relationship, communicate your confidence to your partner. Don’t let their skepticism or opinions shake your self-belief.
Confidence leads naturally to clarity. When you trust yourself, you can express what you want, need, and expect—both to yourself and others.
Clarity is essential for being understood. The clearer you are about your boundaries, limits, and expectations, the smoother and deeper your relationships—across all areas of life—become.
Connection is our human craving. We need it—whether with a spouse, child, friend, or community. When connection falters, our mental health can suffer.
Even a simple 20-second hug releases oxytocin and endorphins—the hormones of love and bonding. These small gestures deepen your relationships and improve your sense of belonging and purpose.
Being connected—online and in person—protects against anxiety, depression, and feelings of isolation. It reminds us that we matter, that we’re seen, and that we belong.
In Summary
For your mental and physical well-being, focus on the Three C’s:
When you build all three, your life transforms. You feel stronger, more alive, and fully capable of showing up as the best version of yourself.